More Attraction Secrets Of The True "Alpha Male"

Dear Speed Seduction® student,

Much has been written and promoted by the now dozens of Ross Jeffries impersonators and imitators on being an "Alpha Male".

These clowns think that by teaching YOU to act like a High School boy cross-bred with an "insult" night club comic, and a little gene splicing with a Hollywood B-Movie "caveman", you will actually get hot, great quality women in your life.

No..I'm not kidding. In fact, one student who attended a seminar by one of these neo-macho ding-dongs wrote in to tell me about it. Here is his email, edited slightly for spelling:

Hey Ross!!!

I'm glad and very thankful I received your newsletter on the nature of the "True Alpha Male" when I did.

You see, I've been recently studying the methods of these imitators. There is this underlying principle that these, "so-called evolutionary-psychologists" are teaching at these seminars, and that is to BE A MAN!!!

What is to be a man? According to them it is part of our DNA a preprogrammed genetic code (that makes us Superior beings) we are given at birth and carry with us throughout our lives.

What these 'gurus' say is that we must bring back the dominant "Alpha Male” within us, care less of the responses and information we get from her, and somehow seem COOL and Sly by
demonstrating this technique of being obnoxious, cocky and funny.

An example would be to call the girl names and to push her around, smack her ass, give her a raised eyebrow, etc.

I don't dig on most of the stuff they teach because it really fails to demonstrate a genuine compassion and curiosity for the other being. You see Ross I believe what makes a man IS
that ability to SHUT-UP, and listen to what the woman has to tell you!!! They will reveal deep information to you when you ask questions that evoke and elicit their deeper processes.
Instead of acting like little kids in a playground why not have a REAL CONVERSATION? Hell isn't that the whole point of getting to know another person regardless of their gender?

I must say that I've had far more AMAZING results by using your methods than by using the methods of the imitators. In fact I must say it's better to have an arsenal of H BOMBS to throw at her than to have one little crappy firework or mysterious magic trick.

Another thing that I noticed is these guys talk like they're jocks from a local High School who just moved into a frat house of a university in the middle of Nebraska. Nepatali C.

Dear Nep,

Well, what can I say about all these imitators? As my mother used to tell me, "Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery".

My real objection to all this "Alpha" crap being thrown around, is that it represents a "dumbing down" of an approach to women, whereas Speed Seduction® represents the smart guys way to
getting women..by getting into their MINDS to get right into their hearts and pants!

Now, the imitators and impersonators essentially say you can and even should IGNORE the unique woman in front of you, and just act in a pre-programmed way that will automatically attract all women by appealing to some unproven genetic "instinct" when you ignore her, treat her like crap, and insult her at every opportunity(I'm not kidding..this is really what they are
teaching!)

The irony in all this is that the actual facts of evolutionary psychology point out the opposite is true: that the Alpha males of our closest genetic relatives, the great apes, actually do very little chest-beating, bullying and throwing ape-turds around. They more often groom the females,
cuddle the babies, share gifts of food, and otherwise act more like politicians than the local bully down at the school yard.

More importantly, as I keep saying, the key to women is understanding each woman's unique, individual "recipes" for attraction, desire, lust, connection, etc. You can't do that without knowing how to listen and knowing how to bring up the right topics of conversation, along with setting a good lead. In other words, you have to use your brains.

Now look: there is nothing, and I mean NOTHING wrong with being confident with women and setting a strong lead. In fact, I teach how to do this and always have taught it.

But there is a difference between the IMITATION OF CONFIDENCE and REAL CONFIDENCE. The first is just about acting like an idiot (and sadly, some women with very little self-esteem can't tell the difference)

The second means knowing when to lead and also knowing when to listen.

The idiots can keep choosing to act like idiots. You and I will keep choosing intelligence. We'll see who wins and keeps on winning.

‘Til next time,

Peace and piece,

RJ

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How To Use Easily Use Speed Seduction® Language Anytime Anywhere!

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

The other day I received this very good question from a reader who wishes to remain totally anonymous, I'll call him "Anon":

"Ross,

Can Speed Seduction® patterns can be used in school class room where exist lots of students? Because in our place(not United States)girls are much more conservative , if she wants to go out with you to have a cup of coffee , it means maybe you are her good friend or she like you a bit.

So I would like to know if these pattern skills can be used in much more noisy places that include lot of people or even she has a friend sitting aside her ?

(I bought the HSC product 20 days ago)"

RJ here:

First, congrats on your first steps into a whole new way of understanding people, as well as nailing hot women!

Listen: "pattern skills" are about capturing and leading the imagination.

Do people use their imaginations, have their imaginations awakened and led in crowds? In classrooms? With other people? When alone? When walking, sitting, standing?

OF COURSE THEY DO!

Therefore, language(and approaches) that captures and leads the imagination can be used.

......ANY FUGGIN' PLACE YOU FIND YOURSELF, BUCKWHEAT!

Now listen: I am a bit concerned about your question. Here is why.

From the way you put things, you seem to be thinking of patterns as some weird, "outsider" "other" category of communication. Something "alien", from another planet or another world that has to be carefully hidden, like a UFO or a monster, lest people see it unprepared and panic!

Please get this: the language patterns I present in the HSC(and other products) may seem alien, or "foreign" or "dangerous" or "odd" or "weird"..to YOU.

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But to women, they are a perfect match for how they think, ANYWAY.

This kind of language is instantly and UNCONSCIOUSLY recognized and responded to in a positive fashion by women, because it matches the internal "maps" they have already laid down in the deepest levels of their minds about what turns them on, moves them, excites them.

Do you get it?

You are NOT introducing anything odd or weird or foreign..to THEM.

Remember, language that would revolt, turn off, weird-out and totally creep out us guys, is like HONEY to women.

That's the first thing to get.

Now, get this:

The patterns I present in the courses are only(ONLY) examples. They are meant to train and teach and familiarize your mind with the kinds of talk that turn women on.

Yes, by themselves, just as written, recited from memory, they can often be VERY powerful.

But eventually, through using them and UNDERSTANDING HOW AND WHY THEY WORK, I want you to be able to come up with you own, original stuff.

Now, here is the next understanding, based on what I just said:

****Wherever possible, tailor, modify and adapt your language to the unique situation and the unique audience and environment you have in front of you****

How do you do this?

Well, first of all, you go beyond MEMORIZING. You have to really understand and experience the idea of capturing and leading the imagination and that this happens all the time.

You have to get that the imagination, fantasy, and right brain visualizing and emotion controls MUCH more of human behavior than you ever first realized, especially with women.

You have to experience how words can paint vivid mental images and create strong flows of feeling.

You have to understand(UNDERSTAND!!!!) how vague language and descriptive language can create huge flows of positive emotion and trigger mental images.

Once you really understand, then you can go to modifying what you say to fit your audience and the environment.

You can match your language to:

*Something going on in the physical environment.

*Something going on in the emotional environment

*Something your audience is DOING

*Something your audience is OBSERVING

(It doesn't' matter whether you audience is one woman or 2 dozen women. These principles work regardless and irrespective of numbers).

Another principle is: observe who is most responsive to your words.

Example: let's say you are at a poetry reading and you are going to get up on stage and read some steamy seduction poems, like my "Fascination" poem which is actually in the BHSC.

What you want to do is SLOWLY read the poem, pausing as you go and make eye contact with the audience. Watch to see which women are most strongly responding: who is getting all "doggy dinner bowl", with wide open eyes, lips parted, breathing heavy, even nipples erect.

THOSE are the girls you will want to talk to, afterwards.

Whenever I am in a group of women, I always watch to see who is most responsive. Those are the ones I will zero in on for more attention.

Ok. Good questions. I hope the answers get you started.

RJ

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What To Do When She's Cold On The Phone

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Recently, I received the following email from a member of the on-line Speed Seduction® discussion group.(Yes, we actually offer round the clock, 24 hour encouragement, advice on support with and for thousands of Home Study course owners around the world! How's that
for backing up our clients and our products?)

Anyway, he asks about an important issue: what happens when a woman who was initially warm to you, suddenly turns cold on that first follow up phone call? Many guys blow this "test" and wind up walking away from some potentially awesome women and fun, fulfilling relationships. So let's hear what he has to say:

Hey All,

After learning SS for four months, I have gotten some pretty exciting results, specifically people react to me in a completely different way. I am able to get rapport and talk to women easily. Also, when I do two brothers, the ideal relationship (put it in my three fingers and eat it) and the energy demo, I generate attraction. I have gotten good at this and at generating big interest as well.

I met a girl at the coffee shop. After meeting her and talking for a long time (like an hour) and running a bunch of patterns, two brothers, energy demo, self pointing, massaging the back of her neck, etc. I got her really going. She was having fun, she like me, rapport etc. She wanted to give me her number and I get it.

But when I called her back two days later she was not interested in meeting. When I call her, what is the best way to take her back to our last meeting? What are the best things to say to make her go back to those states? What are the best things to do during our first meeting to make sure that she will want to meet up with me in the next few days? What is the best message I can leave to make her call me back and want to meet? (This assumes we can't just change venue. Of course changing the venue instead of getting her number is better.)

Thanks,

G.

Good question, G.

Sometimes, people change their minds. It can be for ANY reason. You can do EVERYTHING perfect and still you will not get the girl; you will get good practice and a chance to polish your resourcefulness.

I also can't tell whether you got her on the phone or left a message, so PLEASE clarify and maybe I can help further.

Generally, if women are polite but seem disinterested, my response is, "Hey, no problem, no strings. I just thought you could REMEMBER THE FUN TIME WE HAD...and IMAGINE ENJOYING MORE..but, best to you, you have a good one."

No bitterness. No fear. No rancor. Just, ok, guess you just didn't get it or maybe you are just having a bad day.

Now, it is a DIFFERENT story if she is rude, and ice cold when I call. I've had THAT happen too, and it can be a shock when it is such a turn around from the first responses she had at the first meeting. Then my response is: "Wow...what a rude, cold way to have to PRETEND to be. Have a good day".

Then hang up. If she's just being defensive or insecure you've given her a chance to apologize and come round. Notice the word "pretend" which implies you think she's not really this way, but capable of better.

Understand, some women are super-moody. Some have an initial interest, but their fears of intimacy or their frozen nature just takes over. Some just think they are entitled to treat the world like crap. If she calls you back with anything other than an apologetic tone, hang up on her and write her off. Trust me, you don't need the trouble or bother. Move on with the gift of your skills and find someone more fun, more pleasure, less bother.

Make sense?

For you at home, reading this, understand that an important, but often neglected part of learning success with women is SCREENING. Learning to look for what you want and also what you will not put up with, and then sticking to you guns.

I will put up with women being ordinary humans, and, like all of us, having bad moods and bad days. That's just being wise and using your compassion.

I will NOT put up with women who are perpetually frozen, emotionally cold, think they are God's gift to men, have wild and frequent mood swings, etc

Remember as you move up the learning curve with Speed Seduction®, YOU HAVE A GREAT GIFT TO OFFER. Don't give it or continue to offer it to those who rip off the wrapping only to use it for toilet paper.

Peace and piece,

Ross Jeffries

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How To Talk Women Into Your Bed: Part II

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

In the last issue, I introduced some of the core concepts for getting really good at seducing hot women, even when you don't have looks, social status or money.

Just to review, I taught you:

1. Focus on her feelings first. Get your mind off the behaviors you want from her(sex, undying loyalty, threesomes, etc) and put your mind and focus on what feeling states she would have to be in, in order to want to naturally give you those behaviors.

2. Realize that the key to her feelings is her imagination. Capture and lead her imagination and you can generate the intense feelings and emotions she craves.

3. The key to capturing her imagination AND emotions is how you use your language. Remember the example from last issue of romance novels; they out do every other form of fiction combined, because they appeal to women's fantasies, imagination and emotions, even though we, as guys, would never read such stuff.

The Mystery Of Women's "Feelings" Explained

In order to understand just how to tap into the deep feelings that women crave, like "chemistry", attraction, desire, fascination, incredible connection I need to make the
briefest of detours into a discpline called Neuro-Linguistic Programming or NLP. Please, please bear with me, because the next couple of paragraphs will allow you to enjoy a profound
understanding of how women "tick" that will skyrocket your success with them more a new Porsche, perfect pecs, or high status and fame.

The Concept of States And " Emotional Recipes"

One of the core ideas of NLP is that people don't just mysteriously "get" feelings. Feelings and emotions are the end result of a process that people run on the inside of themselves, involving what they say to themselves, how they picture things in their minds, and what flows of internal
physical sensations they experience inside their bodies.

Now, bear with me here, because this is both simple AND important.

Think of a woman you really, REALLY want to be with.

Wouldn't you like her to experience the following emotional "states" with you?

*Chemistry
*Fascination
*Connection
*Desire

You would agree that those would be great for starters, yes? That, given THOSE feelings, she would be far more likely to say, "JUMP ME NOW" instead of "Let's just be friends!" (By the way, if the only thing you hear from women is "Let's just be friends" it is because the only feeling states she experiences around you are casual enjoyoment and comfort. Not enough to get her doing the grown up!)

Are you following along so far?

Ok. For this lovely lady to experience these intense, positive feeling states with you, she has to run some kind of internal process or "recipe" to get the end result of wanting you.

An Example To Help Understand And A Half Truth Corrected And Explained

As an example, a woman might first look at you and get a bit of a tingle in her tummy. Then she might picture you and her naked. Then she might say to herself "yummm". Then perhaps she might feel tightness in her throat, her nipples hardening, and the tingles going down to her crotch. She might picture the two of you meeting her friends and feeling a sense of pride.

The key is this: this will all flash through her body and mind in seconds, so fast in fact, that she will almost always something she is NOT consciously aware of doing.

Now, you may have heard it said that women will decide in the first ten seconds if they are going to sleep with a guy.

This is almost always NOT true. What is true is that when women DO decide to sleep with you,(whether it's ten minutes or ten months into knowing you) they will run that process of
deciding through their body and mind in LESS than ten seconds.

Ok. I think I've piled enough on you for now. But I want you to really re-read this newsletter another time. Maybe print it out and take it with you for a long walk, and think about
the implications and how it begins to make sense of a very important piece of your life. Remember the more we can "de-mystify" women's emotions and make them something we can
bring to the surface and LINK to us, the more power, choice, and enjoyment with women we are going to have; women most guys just get to dream about.

In the next issue we'll get into the nuts and bolts of how to actually start using your language to do this.

Until then,

P e a c e a n d p i e c e ,

R o s s



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How To Talk Women Into Your Bed: Part I

Wednesday 3:45 PM

Dear Friend and Speed Seduction Student,

A common question I am asked is: How can I get women hot by how I talk to them? How can I use my words to create attraction in women, without having to rely on my looks or social standing or money?

Well, as the 18th century French Philosopher, Voltaire said: "Give me ten minutes to talk away my ugly face and I will bed the Queen of France". (By the way, Voltaire was a good pal of Ben Franklin, one of America's founding fathers and together they seduced hundreds of hot women. And they were doing this well into their 80's)

Now I'm sure you have probably known a guy who wasn't good looking, didn't have money, but somehow he just knew what to say to women to make them eager to "jack his beanstalk", "ride his baloney pony" and "do the grown up". In short, he had lots of women, while better-looking guys had few or none. The reality is that men have been "sweet-talking" women out of their panties (or bloomers or whatever) since recorded history began.

It's just with Speed Seduction we are going to make it a lot more precise for you by introducing you to the concept of "recipes" or "states".

You see, one key shift in understanding how to get what you want with the women you want is:

STOP FOCUSING ON WHAT YOU WANT WOMEN TO DO WITH YOU!

Now, I know this may seem like a key paradox. After all, isn't this all about getting very hot women to do what we want-sleep with us, give us great sex, worship the ground we slink across, etc?

Yes, of course it is. But the key here is, GO FOR HER FEELINGS FIRST!

If you can create the intense, passionate feelings in women that they dream aboutthen THE BEHAVIORS THAT FLOW FROM THOSE FEELINGS: HAVING GREAT SEX, PLEASING YOU, AND ANY KINKY STUFF YOU LIKE WILL COME NATRUALLY AND EASILY.

So the real question is: how can we awaken the feelings and emotional states that give us this kind of "leverage" with women?

The key is to capture and lead her imagination.

Just remember this rule: her imagination is the key to her emotions. Her emotions are the key to her bedroom door!

I don't care how hot she is. I don't care if she is a "10" on the looks scale and YOU are a "two". If you can capture her imagination, then you can capture her emotions. Capture her emotions and you tap into the deep cultural and social conditioning that teaches women from the time they can first speak that following their emotions is the key to being a woman.

Now, the good news is, you can do this in a way that truly fulfills her and leaves her feeling wonderful, so BOTH of you win.

The next issue of this newsletter will begin the process of teaching you how. For now, bear this in mind:

Every year, romance novels outsell every other form of fiction combined, not just in the United States, but the ENTIRE Western world.

Tom Clancy, John LeCarre, Stephen King and any of your other favorite authors combined can't even make even a small dent in the sales of books that you and I as men would RIGHTLY consider trash!

Yet women of all ages read these things.

Why? Simply because they want their imagination and emotions stimulated and women do this through words; the words they speak, the words they hear, and in this case the words they read.

You may not have an ugly face to talk away. You may not want to "bed the Queen of France." But to be the king of the bedroom, you have to learn to structure your communication in ways most guys will never even begin to consider or understand.

You can get going right now by going to: http://www.speedseduction.biz/products/RJ187.php

In our next issue, we'll talk about the all important ideas of emotinal "recipes" and "states" and how this will allow you to jump from chump to seduction super-star.

Until then,

Peace and piece,

Ross Jeffries

P.S. I don't care by the way if you want lots of ladies or just one special girl for a long-term relationship. Unless you can learn to trigger her "attraction" and "chemistry" states, you won't get a one-night stand or a "real-hate-shun-ship". You will merely hear that age-old curse, "Let's just be friend". YUCCH! I wouldn't wish that on a Washington bureaucrat or the kids in high school who used to beat me silly!

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